Tips to Deal with Social Anxiety over the Holidays

The holiday season can be the most difficult time of year to deal with social anxiety. With family gatherings and mandatory events to commit to, anxiety can skyrocket. Personally, having too many plans on my calendar sets me off to begin with. I freak out before I even leave the house. This post contains affiliate links.

Tips to Deal with Social Anxiety over the Holidays

Tips to Deal with Social Anxiety over the Holidays

Essential Oils – Dab peppermint or eucalyptus essential oils on your wrists and/or on the back of your neck to ease anxiety. There are many other scents that you might find calming, but these are the two that work best for me.

Workout – Exercise or do yoga the morning of an event. Get those endorphins pumping to help calm you.

Just Listen – Sometimes during a conversation I feel the need to talk a lot. Regardless of what I am rambling on about, or if I am contributing to the conversation, I just babble on to fill any silence. It’s okay to just listen. Take the pressure off yourself and just be the ears of the group. My uncle once told me, “Talk less, listen more.” as general life advice. It is a good phrase to live by.

Dress Comfortably – The first time you try to rock a new trend, like leather leggings, should not be at a large holiday gathering if you have social anxiety. That’s probably a horrible example, but I know that I have had days where I want to be trendy and fashion forward, and end up regretting it big-time. I end up feeling super self-conscious and awkward, even if people compliment the look. If you are already nervous about an event, dress in something comfortable to take that stress trigger off the table.

Stay Sober – A few cocktails to ease your nerves might sound like a good idea, but it could easily backfire. When you are uncomfortable, it’s easy to use alcohol as a crutch and drink way too much.

Supplements – Talk to your doctor before taking any supplements. I have been trying to nourish my adrenal glands. They are responsible for producing stress hormones. Adrenal fatigue can cause you to lose your ability to cope with stress. I started taking Adrenal Caps from Solaray for the heck of it. Worth a try to boost those babies.

Light Topics – This goes with the conversation topic again. If you are mingling and trying to start a conversation, keep them light. Talking about your new puppy is a lot easier than any controversial hot topics if you have social anxiety. No need to get into any heated debates.

Leave Early – Give yourself permission to leave the party early. It’s a lot easier to get yourself out and make it to the event if you have an escape plan. Chances are, once you get there you will have a great time and want to stay the duration after all!

I would love to add “just relax” to the list, but I hate when people say that to me, so I won’t. Anxiety can be a beast, and relaxing is easier said than done. I hope a few of the above tips can help anyone out there that might be struggling.

Do you suffer from social anxiety? Have any tips for dealing over the holidays?


  1. Robin (Masshole Mommy) says:

    I hear such great things about essential oils – I had no idea they were good for social anxiety, too!

  2. These are all great tips. I have some pretty hefty anxiety, so I always make sure I have an escape plan for any event. Sometimes I don’t need it, but it makes it easier to know it’s there.

  3. I actually have a girlfriend who deals with social anxiety. I never thought of recommending essential oils. Great idea.

  4. My thoughts are the same as Robins…I knew that essentials oils are good for all kinds of things, but never considered them for anxiety. I am going to get some ASAP. I’ve dreaded my daughters Christmas Eve party. The thought of being trapped in the house with all her husbands family, is almost more than I can stand. I may have to bathe in the stuff!

  5. Those are all really great tips! I’ve heard a lot about essential oils and if you use them and find what works for you that’s great.

  6. Amy Desrosiers says:

    I love the scent of peppermint too! It is so invigorating and helps me to unwind and relax.

  7. Ann Bacciaglia says:

    These are all great tips for anyone suffering from Social Anxiety. Holidays can be difficult for me i will remember these tips.

  8. Great tips. I get it social anxiety in some situations, and i also tend to just talk and not listen some times.

  9. what a great solution so you don’t resort to unhealthy habits. I didn’t know essential oils can help!

  10. Social anxiety is pretty scary, it’s very hard to deal with for some!

  11. Simply listening in a conversation is definitely a better way to communicate–especially with family. Totally agree!

  12. I have social anxiety, and it only started when I got older. I’ll use these tips, thanks.

  13. These are great tips! I will definitely have to share these with some of my friends.

  14. Stay sober is a good one! I’ve seen too many parties go south and people have to deal with the repercussions later.

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